Our FAQ section is really simple. We wanted to answer the questions we felt were the most important to us as users. Mainly how to store and clean our toys. Face it, most of us probably keep our toys in a shoebox in the closet far away from the kids.
We aren't doctors or therapists. We are moms who researched many faq pages and our professional mommy advice for most questions is to think safety and then have fun! How are we going to learn what we like if we don't try new things? I don't need some doctor telling me how to insert a vibrator. I'd rather take several nights trying it out and determining what makes me say, "Yea Baby, That's It!" (Either to myself, my partner or screaming it to my God above!)
We determined laughter is the best answer we could think of for most faq questions, but we were a little unsure about a few questions laughter wouldn't satisfy. So we researched and the following is for you. We hope you learn something as we learned researching.
Be sure to see our article library for in depth information on many topics!
Did You Know?
A recent medical study pointed out the important link between orgasms and cardiovascular health in women. The study found that females who experienced at least one orgasm per week averaged higher levels of estrogen in their blood and were more likely to have normal menstrual cycles. Maintaining a healthy level of estrogen in the body helps keep the heart in shape, fights cholesterol, and keeps the skin healthy and supple.
#1 Rule: Safety
What is the proper way to store my sex toys?
Cleaning your Sex Toy
Cleaning your Sex Toy by material
Do I need a condom with my sex toys?
Is my vibrator portable?
How do I choose the right lubricant?
How do I apply lubricant?
Why are Pyrex Glass Dildo and Vibrator Pleasure Wands the new Adult Novelty of Choice?
How can I achieve a "Gushing" or "Squirting" orgasm?
#1 Rule: Safety
You do not want to do anything with a sex toy that you would not do with part of your body. Always check the toy for chips, cracks, dents and other safety issues. Never use a damaged toy.
Use a separate condom for each partner that might share a sex toy in order to help avoid spreading unwanted bacteria or viruses. It's also a good idea to use a separate condom if you use a toy for both anal and vaginal play. Again, to help prevent spreading unwanted bacteria.
What is the proper way to store my sex toys?
Storage of your sex toys is fairly easy and just as important as cleaning them.
You want to keep them separate, cool, and dry. Of course, keep them away from pets, kids, dirt and dust.
You can keep each item separate by wrapping it in a soft cloth such as an old T-shirt or my favorite: socks. Some materials are not compatible with each other and can cause melting or discoloration. If vibrating bullets and eggs are removable, store them separately from their respective toys as well.
Direct sunlight and excess heat may cause toys to melt, discolor, or dry out. Extreme cold can also do damage to toys not made of acrylic, glass, or silicone. Basically, never refrigerate or freeze soft materials or condoms.
Always remove the batteries before storing for any length of time. This will prevent battery leakage that will ruin the toy as well as prevent battery drain.
Be sure your toys are completely dry before storage to discourage mold and mildew.
Lastly, always clean your sex toys before putting them away.
Cleaning your Sex Toy
Be sure to clean all your toys after use to prevent the spread of infections and disease and maintaining the integrity of the material of your sex toy.
Always clean your toys before using yourself and again before sharing with a partner. (Mood killer to get up and clean? Try using condoms over the toys and simply switch them out.)
General cleaning of your toys is simple: Use warm water and antibacterial hand soap.
If you feel the need, break out the hydrogen peroxide.
Don't submerge the part of a toy that holds the batteries.
Do not submerge electric non-waterproof vibes at all.
Nylon webbing harnesses can go in the wash with the rest of your laundry.
Cleaning your Sex Toy by material:
Silicone
Hypo allergenic and easiest to maintain.
One of the more popular materials as it is non-porous and non-toxic.
Can be set in boiling water for two minutes.
Can be run through your dishwasher.
Can be washed with soap and water.
NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
Plastic/Acrylic/Glass
Can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap.
Can be run through your dishwasher.
After washing, can be sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward.)
Acrylic and Glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they are not battery-operated.
Rubber/Latex and Jelly
Rubber materials are difficult to clean, yet they make up for it by being soft and comfortable to hold.
These products are extremely porous and absorb more dirt than silicone, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap.
After washing, rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you.
Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with your sex toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
Note: Oil products destroy latex! That means oil-based lubricants, massage oils, butter, olive oil, Vaseline - anything containing oil. Use only water-based lubricant with latex.
Do I need a condom with my sex toys?
Rubber, latex, jelly, and realistic materials are porous and hard to clean thoroughly. Using a condom will extend the life of the product.
Using a separate condom for each partner that might share a sex toy helps avoid spreading unwanted bacteria or viruses.
Using a separate condom if you use a toy for both anal and vaginal play also helps prevent spreading unwanted bacteria.
Use a lubricated condom and save on additional lubrication.
Is my vibrator portable?
Some vibrators are very portable and they all come in many different sizes and shapes.
Some vibrators take on the identity of other household or personal items.
It depends what your reason for having the vibrator is. If a vibrator is portable and waterproof, then you can travel or come home from a hard day and be able to give yourself a "massage" while relaxing in the bathtub. With electrical vibes you can't do that (for obvious reasons) so battery powered vibes are best for this purpose.
Determine what you want to do, and then buy a vibrator that will fulfill that need!
How do I choose the right lubricant?
Choosing the correct lube is important in maintaining your sex toy in the best shape.
We recommend Water-based lubricants as they can be used with any sex toy.
Silicone lubricants are great for use on a partner, silicone lubricants should never be used with silicone sex toys or any realistic material.
Oil-based lubes or petroleum jelly on toys that will come into contact with the vagina should be avoided. This may increase risk of vaginal infections.
Oil based lubes or petroleum jelly should not be used with anything made of rubber or latex. This includes latex condoms. The oil will disintegrate latex.
How do I apply lubricant?
Joan says squirt it all over the place! Ya Hoo!
Lynn says to pour a small amount (just a small dot) onto your fingers and then spread it on your toy and yourself.
Rub your fingers over the head and down the shaft. Regardless if using a vibrator or the real thing!
Rub the lubricant onto your sex toy so that it's slick, but not dripping. You can always add lubricant but sometimes it's a pain wiping off any excess! Keep a towel handy and keep the pillow cases clean!
Start small and play around. You'll soon learn how much lubrication you like for which toy and which feeling. Learning and laughing is half the fun!
Did I mention we prefer water based lubricants? Easy to clean up afterward!
It's always best to use a little extra lubricant with anal play.
If you or your toy become dry, simply add more lube.
If your toy doesn't slide in comfortably or starts rubbing at dry spots, just add more lubricant.
How can I achieve a "Gushing" or "Squirting" orgasm?
Empty your bladder, first. The feeling just before ejaculating is similar to the feeling you get when you have to urinate; but you want to be confident that what you are experiencing is purely arousal, not the need to go to the bathroom.
Practice alone in a private and comfortable place. Many writers suggest that one of reasons women don't ejaculate is that they hold back when they feel the urge to release. Some recommend that first-timers start out in a warm bath or while sitting on the toilet. The idea is to lose your fear that you may urinate as you release. (By the way, it's not the end of the world if you do urinate on your first try. It certainly shouldn't stand in the way of a great orgasm.)
Most women ejaculate through G-Spot stimulation. The most popular toys for this are firm and gently curved to facilitate direct contact. Fingers may work, but most women report difficulty in reaching their G-Spot manually and that fatigue often sets in before climax can be achieved.
Stimulating your clitoris and inside the top of your vagina, both around the opening and inside a few inches, vary your strokes and amount of pressure until you feel the urge to both climax and urinate. This is the sensation most women describe just prior to ejaculating.
This last step is the most important: Release. Sounds simple, but it's not all that easy to do the first time. Most women suggest relaxing all the same muscles as you do when you urinate. Instead of tightening up the PC muscles, push out slightly. Like most things worth doing, this takes practice, so don't get frustrated if you don't ejaculate on your first try.